Cheers to another awesome night of girlhood at The Bohemian!

We covered a lot at this week’s show. Barrel Pants. Burning Man Murder. Bridal Showers. Being stranded in St. Thomas. Fiancés found on Bumble and Boy Mom drama, It was such a unique room, and we loved having some inter-generational insight into parenting, motherhood, and if it’s ok not to be crazy in love.

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💸 This week, a viral trend floating around suggested that friends should get a shared bank account. The girlies in the audience gave a resounding no.

👯 Amanda Seyfried and Julia Roberts outfit shared Versace at the Venice Film Festival this past week. Half the audience felt very strongly it was a sweet and sustainable choice, and half felt it was a fashion faux pas. While the divide in opinions did appear to be a generational split, we’d all be curious to know What Would Joan Rivers Say?

⛺ There was a murder at Burning Man last week. It involves pools of blood, mysterious women, and a dead Russian. Something tells me streamers are already scraping together a docu-series.

🖌️ Hot Beauty Tip: A girlie confirmed applying sunscreen with a makeup brush is worth it. She recommends a Kabuki brush.

Then we got down to business with burning questions from the crowd:

💊 Vyvanse vs Adderall - the girlies say they prefer Adderall (we say see a doctor)

🍆 Should I hook up with a 27 year old if I am 50? (resounding yes, save 1 girlie who wanted to know: do 27 year olds really have anything special to offer?)

❤️‍🔥 Does everyone actually feel insanely in love with their husband or is it ok that I’m not? (Many agreed that we aren’t living in Nicholas Spark’s novels)

🍼 Is having kids actually that great or are all moms secretly miserable? (Hot topic: many swore kids are life’s light, a few shouted back firm and serious “skip it.”)

…and prosthetic finger tips?

🍿 Binge:
The Twisted Tale of Amanda Knox (Hulu), Wednesday (Netflix), Fit for TV (Netflix). The Thursday Murder Club (Netflix) adaptation was deemed “cute,” and the girlies are still watching The Summer I Turned Pretty (Amazon),

🫢 Skip (or silently ignore):
Once again, Untamed (Netflix) claims to be the top of the streaming charts, and we have yet to find a girlie who is watching. Love is Blind UK (Netflix) wasn’t doing it for anyone except me apparently. Peacemaker (HBO) was a pass, and Katrina Come Hell or High Water (Netflix) was deemed “meh” (to be abundantly clear, the docuseries, not the situation).

🎲 Split the Room:
Platonic (Apple) got the most heated mixed reaction in the room.

We asked if anyone had read the Book Club books of August: Reese’s (Once Upon A Time in Dollywood by Ashley Jordan), Read With Jenna/The Today Show (My Other Heart by Emma Nanami Strenner), or New Friends (The Final Girl Support Group by Grady Hendrix) and…. not a single page of these had been turned.

We turned it to the floor, and here are the titles people felt strongly about recommending:

Non Fiction: Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams (yes, that was me again, but please I’m dying to discuss!), You’re Not Enough and That’s Okay by Allie Beth Stuckey, The Pivot Year by Brianna Weist,

Fiction: The Rose Code by Kate Quinn, Problematic Summer Romance by Ali Hazlewood, and ACOTAR girlies, we see you still!

We grabbed the top trending food and dining reviews of the summer from Axios, Eater, and Charlotte Food & Dining, and asked the girlies if they agreed.

📍 Grab a table:
El Puro Cuban, Calle Sol Latin Cafe, Dish, Mchales Pub, Puerta, Soul Gastro, DTR

We also asked about the Spaghetti Melt at Papi Quesos (a hidden menu item!) and a girlie said get it and get it with the Tomato Soup.

🚫 No one can vouch for
L’Ostrica, Seaboy

New Spot to Keep an Eye On
Savú

Skylar: Love Hurts. Aka Jordan Love, Jaylen Hurts and the rest of the NFL are hitting the field again this week. Football season is back baby. I love it. The drama of underdog stories, and I love playing Fantasy football. I shared with the girlies that when I was single, this was a great excuse to talk to guys at the bar. Very few men will pass up a chance to review your fantasy lineup, give you some pointers on who to add to your trade list and maybe your lineup won’t be the only thing that scores.

But also, love hurts in other ways? One of the most poignant questions of the night came from a girlie who asked (and I quote): “Does everyone actually feel insanely in love with their husband… or is it okay that I don’t?”

And the truth is, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer. Real long-term relationships rarely look like the love stories we grew up on. I mean, there is a reason every romcom ends with the big kiss, not five years into an argument over why he didn’t know your coffee order.

As someone who grew up voraciously reading every single romance novel in the public library, I had big expectations of what it would feel like to meet The One™. But what no one tells you (well maybe people did tell me, I just didn’t want to hear it because I WAS SPECIAL DUH!) is that passion lives in the pursuit, while love lives in the choosing. The grand gestures, the epic sparks? Yes, they matter. But the real test? It’s in the arguments, the hard seasons, the moments when life feels heavy do you get through it and get better at understanding each other?

I think we don’t talk about this enough because we’re scared it’ll sound like we’re “settling” or not in the right relationship. But maybe the girlie truth is: passion is fireworks, love is the daily showing up, and that can sometimes feel not exactly love song worthy. At least that is what I would have tried to tell a younger me.

I sense a full Substack deep dive on this coming soon.

Ok, ok, ok, ok. So I know when we asked about having a shared bank account with friends, the girlies in the audience gave a unanimous “absolutely the f not.” Valid.

But then I read (fine, browsed) the article linked above, and they mentioned a friend group that puts $20 a week into a joint account, and then uses that money for their annual girls’ trip. And honestly? I kind of love the sentiment. It takes the stress out of being the Venmo police, or that awkward moment of, “Wait, who actually paid for the Airbnb?” Plus, you don’t have to overthink splurging on a nice dinner when it already feels like the trip’s been “pre-paid.”

That said, this system probably only works if everyone in the group is in exactly the same financial lane and can be trusted to actually deposit the money every week. Which, let’s be real… as a repeat offender of “forgetting” to set up auto bill pay because I swear I’ll remember the due date (I won’t), I know I would 100% be the problem here. Thank you to my grad school roomie, a girlie I do not deserve, who took over these logistics so I could just send her a venmo and not ruin her credit.

Carol: To the girlie from the live show with the question about kids (see above)…I see you 👀. I poll a shocking number of people every week about if they are happy with their choice. Truly. Tons of people. Friends, family, and strangers in the grocery store (I’m sorry about asking in front of your child). I have OCD and this is my current compulsion.

It’s part of my current angst which I’ve branded: My 35-Year-Old Crisis. I’m running out of time to shrug and say “we’ll just see what happens” but the answers I thought would just “show up” seem to still be MIA. I thought clarity would come with age, but instead it got murky, crowded with thoughts like: “holy shit, I cannot imagine being responsible for keeping someone alive right now” after a long day at work. Immediately followed by “but I would be the best Santa ever known to mankind” …and if that’s not a reason to have kids…I don’t know what is. This is a joke, everyone calm down, Santa is Santa, I know that.

I’ll be writing more about my emotional free-fall of realizing time is moving whether or not I’ve figured things out for myself it in the Substack soon. Stay tuned, anxiety girlies.

Moving right along: I AM that friend who puts $20 (a month) into a group trip fund. We host a PowerPoint party to pick the destination. Pro tips: the responsible one (Ellen) handles collections, the money-savvy one (Louanne) picked a high-interest account, and the rest of us…well, we mostly just show up. Recently, I was the problem girlie, five months behind on payments (why I’m not in charge of collections), no worries, Ellen responsibly rolled my debt into one lump sum payment. Here we are having a delightful time in Oregon Wine Country. I say try it out.

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Realtor & The Friend Collector 👯‍♀️ Charlotte native with 13 years in new home construction + sales. Passionate about building people and communities that last.

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